Bethenny Frankel gives frank advice on co-parenting ‘long game’ after savage update on ex Jason Hoppy

Bethenny Frankel gave her followers a stark warning against trying to turn children against their ex-spouse.

“Do not try to turn your kids against your ex,” the former reality star said in an Instagram video Sunday.

Frankel cautioned that no matter how “active, proactive, or subtle” someone thinks they are being in trying to turn their kid against their ex, it will always come back to bite them.

Bethenny Frankel (pictured here) gave a stark warning to never try to turn your kids against your ex-spouse. bethennyfrankel/Instagram
“No matter how abusive, controlling, problematic your ex is, you will end up turning your kid against you,” she cautioned. bethennyfrankel/Instagram

“No matter how abusive, controlling, problematic your ex is, you will end up turning your kid against you.”

She continued, “There are so many examples of this and it is a long road. Whatever is happening today with you and your kids is not the same thing that will be happening in years to come.

“It is hard to see when they’re little, but the best thing for your children is to keep your thoughts, your anger and your misery to yourself.”

The advice comes weeks after the reality star gave an update on co-parenting with her ex-husband Jason Hoppy (pictured with their daughter on 2011). Getty Images
The exes share now 16-year-old daughter Bryn (pictured in 2012). FilmMagic

Frankel concluded that people should “play the long game” and do “what is best” for their children.

Her frank advice comes weeks after the “Real Housewives of New York” alum gave an update on co-parenting with ex-husband Jason Hoppy.

“It’s been a strained year. It’s been a challenging year,” she admitted on the “Friends Keep Secrets” podcast hosted by Benny Blanco.

“It’s been a strained year. It’s been a challenging year,” she admitted of the situation with Hoppy (pictured in 2010). Getty Images
Frankel, who split from Hoppy in 2012, called their 10-year divorce a “traumatic” exercise she likened to “torture.” (Pictured: Frankel and Hoppy in 2009.) Dimitrios Kambouris

The swimwear designer, 55, said that her divorce from Hoppy — with whom she shares 16-year-old daughter, Bryn — was a “traumatic” exercise she likened to “torture.”

“There were a lot of circumstances that have been too much,” the Skinnygirl founder shared, noting their “10 years [in legal proceedings] on a two-year marriage.”

The exes, notably, split in 2012, but their divorce wasn’t finalized until 2021.

Frankel was ultimately granted primary residential custody of Bryn after what she described as a “two-year marriage” followed by a “10-year, horrible, horrendous, worst-of-my-life divorce.”

Despite her issues with Hoppy, the SkinnyGirl founder made it clear she doesn’t let them affect her relationship with Bryn (seen above). Instagram/Bethenny Frankel
“I love her so much,” she said, noting that they are “in between” being mother and daughter and friends. bethennyfrankel/Instagram

Despite the traumatic split from Bryn’s father, Frankel gushed over her relationship with her teen daughter.

“I love her so much,” she said, noting that they are “in between” being mother and daughter and friends.

“When we vibe and we are watching something and we’re laughing, we connect,” she added.

Frankel previously admitted that Bryn (see above) was the only reason she got through the nasty divorce. bethennyfrankel/Instagram
“I had to because of my daughter,” Frankel recalled last year, though she worried she would “never be happy again.” Charles Sykes/Bravo via Getty Images

Frankel previously admitted that Bryn was the only reason she got through the nasty divorce from Hoppy.

The businesswoman claimed she “lost hair” and thought she “would never survive” the split, going so far as to say she “didn’t want to.”

“I had to because of my daughter,” Frankel recalled while becoming emotional on the “Call Her Daddy” podcast in December 2025. “I literally thought, ‘I’ll never be happy again.’”

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